Arrest the Rampant Single Parenthood Mania

The importance of bringing forth and bringing up children in a controlled environment cannot be overemphasized. Though some people may claim to know what’s best for their children, there are those who really don’t give a damn about their offspring. For a moment, I would like us to ditch our individual beliefs and consider what the author of life defined as an ideal environment for bringing forth new life.

[At the beginning of age, God made a home for man (Garden of Eden). Then He created man (male and female) and placed them at the garden. Finally, He said to them, “Multiply and fill the earth.” This means that a new life should be brought forth into an already prepared home and the progenitors should be present to welcome and nurture it. These are the minimum standards for bringing forth a new life as per the life-author’s guide.]

However, humans have adopted a self-destructive culture. Misuse of freedom of choice has resulted in weird beliefs that have conditioned the human body, mind and spirit into a perverse way of life. This has given birth to a hurting society where a man and woman engage in a casual affair, a new-life is created, one parent backs off or is forced to do so and the new-life is forcibly disadvantaged.

Misuse of freedom of choice has given rise to irresponsible guys and haughty gals who’re bringing forth and bringing up a deprived generation.

Single ladies, stop this haughtiness. You say, “I don’t need to get married to have a baby, I just need a sperm donor.” So you bring forth a child into a single parent home. To hone your parenting skills, you attend expensive parenting classes. The parenting specialist/expert highlights the importance of a male authority in the life of a child. Ironically, you run to look for a father figure for your child, maybe an uncle, a male friend etc. who barely has spare time on his busy schedule. Gal. Really?

Sorry gals, I didn’t mean to offend you. Kindly stay with me and let’s engage our dear brothers.

Guys! Be real. Someone embarks on a journey to the land of children and when his visit is acknowledged, he freaks out and escapes through the nearest exit. If he’s stony-hearted, he goes underground for the following 18 to 21 years or even forever. If he has a softer heart he tip-toes back and pledges to take care of child maintenance on condition that he be allowed to be a virtual dad. You guy, put yourself in the shoes of the new life you’ve dragged into the world. Are you humane?

Why are you gals/guys so selfish? Why do you allow your stereotyped beliefs to deny your offspring stable and healthy nuclear families?

Single parenthood should only be a tragic unavoidable eventuality not a choice. Every child needs a father and a mother. If there is a child out there lacking parental presence and both biological parents are alive, then they need to style up and give their child solid support and wholesome nurturance (emotional, spiritual, physical, intellectual – all round) at least for the first 21 years of his/her life. Stop bringing down our society’s foundation with your selfish and ill-informed beliefs.

Ditch the popular culture and live by sound and potent counsel for your sake and for the sake of your generation.

Make a turnaround today.

If you’re living undercover, running away from your child and your baby mama, come out of your hideout, apologize and man up; shoulder your responsibilities.

Virtual dads and moms, stop being selfish. Your child needs both parents to mold him/her emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually etc.

To all potential mothers and fathers under the sun, bid goodbye to casual affairs.

Singles, invest your time in group friendships, strengthen ties in your circle; grow deep, genuine platonic relationships. By the way, this is the best platform for meeting a life partner. You get a chance to know them deeper without them realizing. You also avoid the risk of committing into a relationship with an incompatible partner. But you must stick to the objectives; objective of platonic relationships is friendship, period. Don’t get carried away by partner hunting urges. However, in such relaxed and non-demanding circumstances, nature has a way of matching up the compatible. When that happens, go ahead and get married, have kids and nurture your family.

Let’s put to an end the ungodly culture of selfishness; bringing up deprived children in the name of serving self-interests. Where gals say, ‘I don’t need to get married to have children, all I need is a sperm donor’ while guys abandon their expectant lovers saying, ‘I’m not ready to settle down with her.’ And what outcome do we get? – Emotionally challenged kids due to deficiency of paternal and maternal love. And you wonder why our society’s moral fabric is decaying?