Her role in the universe is clearly cut out, and she starts training in readiness for her mission as soon as her hands are strong enough to hold something.
Her first birthday present is a beautiful doll, which gives her a countenance similar to the one mama had when she(the little girl) checked into the world.
She has her first time experience of sacrifice when she shoves aside her plate of food, to take care of the new found love. Today she's training her (the doll) how to sit, tomorrow she is plaiting her hair, the other day she's carrying her on her back soothing her to sleep. Did I forget that mama is now being instructed to serve food for two? Though soon she'll start preparing meals for her child (doll) and doing her laundry as well.
As her obsession with dolls fades off, she starts fitting into her mama's shoes. She eagerly waits for everyone to finish their meal so she can clear the table. If she's the organized type, then she's definitely an 'order cop', - everything must be kept at its right place.
By the time she turns ten, she knows her way around the kitchen, she can now prepare the family a serious meal. And her laundry? that's her business now.
When mama and papa add another soldier to the family — a little bundle of handsomeness; our cute miss assumes the role of a mini-mama.
At age thirteen, the girl can now manage literally all the household chores. From cooking, cleaning, feeding the baby, giving the baby a bath, you name it. She is an experienced woman though only a little girl.
Does the society require a woman to be a nurturer and a home maker? She started learning that from year one. And her act keeps getting better.
At 25, daddy and mommy may as well give her away in marriage; she's 100% prepared to assume the demanding role of a wife and mother.
Now back to her little brother.
(Normally, there is nothing much that goes around raising a boy child. All a boy needs is lots of food to feed his muscles, (for his future family's security needs). Then take him to school, so he can grow a career that can cater for his family's financial needs. Or teach him a trade that can help him pass the test of a good provider when he finally sets up his own family.
Jeez! That's how shallow we're in respect to bringing up male children. We assume 'providing' entirely means dishing out cash to those in need of it. Hence, we just empower them to 'mint' money, period.)
However, in the same way the little princess was presented with a doll and started learning how to baby sit and nurture at a tender age, the young lad (brother) was also gifted with a toy car. Most probably he dismantled everything and when he was unable to reassemble it, he graduated to making his own toy cars using old cartons, wood and everything else that was at his disposal.
Jeez! That's how shallow we're in respect to bringing up male children. We assume 'providing' entirely means dishing out cash to those in need of it. Hence, we just empower them to 'mint' money, period.)
However, in the same way the little princess was presented with a doll and started learning how to baby sit and nurture at a tender age, the young lad (brother) was also gifted with a toy car. Most probably he dismantled everything and when he was unable to reassemble it, he graduated to making his own toy cars using old cartons, wood and everything else that was at his disposal.
Boys master their way around cars at a young age and keep refining their act as they advance in years.
Men's excellence when it comes to matters, cars is undisputable and their love for their big toys is unmatchable.
Unfortunately, we orientate boys on issues, 'locomoting metals' yet we expect them to deliver in a totally different field. And that's why most of them perform dismally when it comes to husbandhood and fatherhood.
Everyone knows how good it feels to provide for someone's else needs, especially financially.
[So you take a young man straight from his parents house, with trace experience in household responsibility, and put him in charge of a woman and children who deeply love him for nothing. (If you insist on knowing why they love him, then query their hearts). You then give him an implied responsibility to make good their love by providing for their needs.
Since the time his tender mind began figuring out conversations, he had been hearing that a man's role is to protect and provide for his family. Now here are some cute and loving humans calling themselves his family. What else can a sober man do other than practice what he has been hearing? So the love struck dude levels valleys, clears forests, knocks down mountains and does everything manly possible to give his lovely dependants the best life money can afford].
Nothing beats the feeling of seeing one's wallet magically transform their almost non-existent home into a splendid little kingdom. So the provider's sense of self-importance (ego) keep on ballooning day by day.
[So you take a young man straight from his parents house, with trace experience in household responsibility, and put him in charge of a woman and children who deeply love him for nothing. (If you insist on knowing why they love him, then query their hearts). You then give him an implied responsibility to make good their love by providing for their needs.
Since the time his tender mind began figuring out conversations, he had been hearing that a man's role is to protect and provide for his family. Now here are some cute and loving humans calling themselves his family. What else can a sober man do other than practice what he has been hearing? So the love struck dude levels valleys, clears forests, knocks down mountains and does everything manly possible to give his lovely dependants the best life money can afford].
Nothing beats the feeling of seeing one's wallet magically transform their almost non-existent home into a splendid little kingdom. So the provider's sense of self-importance (ego) keep on ballooning day by day.
According to him, a man's responsibility towards his family only entails meeting their financial needs and protecting them from physical dangers (of which he has already installed CCTV cameras and/or hired a security guard to take care of that), so as soon as his part of the deal is done, he goes back to drooling and obsessing over his big toys, as well as flocking with his undemanding companions(his boys).
And that's exactly where the hitch is; that's the root of all evil plaguing marriages and families. Men who have ditched the role of husband and father and assumed the role of a cash machine instead.
And that's exactly where the hitch is; that's the root of all evil plaguing marriages and families. Men who have ditched the role of husband and father and assumed the role of a cash machine instead.
Kudos to mamas and papas who have defied societal norms, to give their male and female children undifferentiated upbringing, thereby raising potential husbands and fathers who are able to participate actively in nurturing their families. And not men who see their wives and children as mere offloaders of their bank accounts.
I would also like to acknowledge men of faith who have resolved to abide by the humanity-posterity-conscious teachings of the Holy Book. Our society may be going to the dogs, but your presence and efforts give us hope for a better world.
If you expect your son to be someone's husband in future, teach him values that will make him an awesome husband from a tender age. Make sure your son learns and practices values like faithfulness, empathy, gentleness, selflessness, kindness, tolerance, humility etc. from the word go. Groom him into a husband of noble character early enough.
Since the day you knew you were expecting a baby boy, you started dreaming of being a grandparent someday in the future, right? So start grooming your son for fatherhood as soon as you start giving him toddler lessons. Provide him an environment that empowers him to act like a family man as soon as he learns he's a boy.
Right now gals are matching up guys when it comes to bank account balances. So it's the high time we stop defining a man's worth based on their ability to provide for their family. As this only fuels insecurities in them, causing them to lose touch with their family's non-financial needs.
Let's teach both our girls and boys the art of homemaking, as much as we're training and preparing them to become awesome breadwinners. Otherwise we don't want to risk a future where our female descendants will write off their male counterparts as obsolete.
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